{"id":1490,"date":"2012-03-22T21:36:30","date_gmt":"2012-03-22T21:36:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/forallevents.com\/reviews\/?p=1490"},"modified":"2012-07-25T21:37:28","modified_gmt":"2012-07-25T21:37:28","slug":"loved-by-you-a-self-love-story-at-brava-theatre","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/forallevents.com\/reviews\/loved-by-you-a-self-love-story-at-brava-theatre\/","title":{"rendered":"LOVED BY YOU, A Self-Love Story at Brava Theatre"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>by Linda Ayres-Frederick<\/p>\n<p>For two nights only March 28 and 29th at Brava Theatre in SF, Lori Shantzis will perform her solo show Loved by You, a testament to the enduring spirit and strength of a woman whose childhood messages were anything but self-love and self-acceptance. In the interview below, Ms. Shantzis speaks of her experience writing her show and more:<\/p>\n<p>LAF: What do you love most about writing\/performing?<br \/>\nLS: I tend to be a very over-thinking, self-critical person, so for me both writing and performing are a meditation and a mindfulness practice. Even more than when I sit cross legged on the floor or bend myself into a pretzel in yoga, when the pen moves freely on the page or I embody a character, I am truly in the present moment, and it feels like I imagine how a surfer feels \u201cin the zone\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>LAF: When did you first begin writing?<br \/>\nLS: I&#8217;ve been writing my autobiography since I was 8. Because I came from such a crazy, dysfunctional family, writing down the stories was both a way to distance myself from it as well as use my imagination to create a separate, more heroic form of myself. In my earlier work&#8211;perhaps until I was in my forties! I was more of a victim, a heroine with the back of her hand perpetually stuck to her forehead as the train was about it meet her on the tracks. Then, after a lot of inner work, I realized that there were not really any ropes holding me down, that I could have, and can now, simply get up, stand on my own two feet, and stop being a victim. I&#8217;ve also written a lot of fiction, but I know that in the end, my own story was the one that needed to be told.<\/p>\n<p>LAF: And performing?<br \/>\nLS: I attempted a stand-up burlesque routine seven years ago (at forty) when I first got divorced. I convinced myself that I was too old to ever have any success at it, since it is such a school of hard knocks. That \u2018s the premise for Loved by You: Why would a nearly 50 year old woman suddenly decide to take her clothes off in public? Ironically, telling that story is what has brought things full circle. The play has been a huge personal and professional success, not because I want to make a mid-life career of taking off my clothes in public, but because people identify with all the outrageous ways women struggle for love and acknowledgement, no matter their age.<\/p>\n<p>LAF: When did you realize you wanted to be a performer?<br \/>\nLS: In the play I say it was when I was 6 years old, and I suppose it took me over 40 years to admit that that really has been a dream of mine. I&#8217;ve tended to be the shadow artist, dating actors and actresses, when I suppose I was secretly wanting my own 15 minutes of fame.<\/p>\n<p>LAF: What do you consider to be your strengths as a writer\/performer?<br \/>\nLS: I enjoy my ability to find the absurd in things. I never tell a straight story.<\/p>\n<p>LAF: What do you want your audience to take away with them from your show?<br \/>\nLS: That going within and facing one&#8217;s demons is the gateway to healing: if I can love myself after everything I&#8217;ve been through, then anyone can, but it has to start with acknowledging that we didn&#8217;t ask our parents to f&#8211;k us up. We can love the innocent children within, even if we never get that love from our parents or from the outside world.<\/p>\n<p>LAF: When you get down, what lifts your spirits back up?<br \/>\nLS: Talking with other creative people, meditation, yoga, watching happy children and dogs at the park. Cuddling with my daughter, who is an extremely happy and well-adjusted kid. Remembering that I am stronger than I thought.<\/p>\n<p>LAF: What of your accomplishments are you most proud of? professionally?<br \/>\nLS: Professionally, creating the madcap yet harrowing story which is this play.<\/p>\n<p>LAF: And personally?<br \/>\nLS: Getting treatment for my PTSD instead of sticking with the chemical haze that my psychiatrists have prescribed. Facing the dark truths and coming out the other side stronger for it.<\/p>\n<p>LAF: What have been the most challenging experiences you\u2019ve had putting this show together?<br \/>\nLS: Realizing that I couldn&#8217;t do all of the wild and wonderful things I envisioned because I just didn&#8217;t have the budget.<\/p>\n<p>LAF: When you run out of ideas, if ever, where do you seek inspiration?<br \/>\nLS: Doing improv, writing with friends, reading poetry, going to see other solo performance, watching the Colbert Report.<\/p>\n<p>LAF: Who would you say has influenced you most professionally?<br \/>\nLS: Solo Performer Ann Randolph<\/p>\n<p>LAF: What do you do to relax?<br \/>\nLS: Scream in my car (alone), when I&#8217;m really stressed. I love it. People assume I&#8217;ve lost my mind, but it is honestly the most clearing thing I can do when I&#8217;m going off the anxiety deep-end. But I try to do a lot of yoga, listen to spiritual music, meditate, dance in my gallery before I get to that point.<\/p>\n<p>LAF: What\u2019s up next?<br \/>\nLS: After my shows at Brava, I&#8217;m booked for a mother&#8217;s day show of a new piece called &#8220;The Tragic Tale of the Pole-dancing Soccer Mom&#8221; through Meanie Productions at the Shelton Theater. Then I&#8217;ll be rewriting Loved by You for the Boulder Fringe, and hopefully taking the show to Santa Cruz and LA.<\/p>\n<p>Loved by You by Lori Shantzis, plays at Brava Theater, 2781 24th St., SF, CA 94110, March 28 &amp; 29, 8 pm, $15. Pre-show by The Conspiracy of Beards. 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