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Remarks on Adam Lanza and the Sandy Hook School shooting<\/strong><\/p>\n

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The Reckoning:\u00a0 The father of the Sandy Hook killer searches for answers<\/em>.\u00a0 By Andrew Solomon.\u00a0 The New Yorker<\/em>, March 17, 2014, pp. 36-45.<\/p>\n

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This article, in the March 17, 2014 issue of The New Yorker,<\/em> is the outcome of six interviews Andrew Solomon conducted with Peter Lanza, the father of Adam Lanza, last fall, some lasting as long as seven hours.\u00a0 It is Peter Lanza’s first public statement since the killings at Sandy Hook Elementary School on December 14, 2012.\u00a0 The Sandy Hook massacre has been portrayed in the media and by law enforcement as “incomprehensible,”\u00a0 however, I think this summary of Solomon’s interviews with Peter provides a basis for some insight and interpretation that has not heretofore been considered.<\/p>\n

Solomon describes Peter’s state of mind regarding the incident as one of “sustained incomprehension.”\u00a0 Peter tells us, “I want people to be afraid of the fact that this could happen to them.” (p. 37)\u00a0 Solomon himself accepts this admonition and says so explicitly in his NPR interview with Terry Gross.1<\/sup>\u00a0\u00a0 However, this warning reflects Peter’s lack of insight and understanding of his own family.\u00a0\u00a0 It is not an uncommon position for an American father to find himself in, but we need not fear that this can happen to just anyone, that any kid can become a mass murderer.\u00a0 It can certainly happen again, and probably will, given conditions within American society.\u00a0 The New York Daily News<\/em> (December 12, 2014) recently reported a total of 44 school shootings that have occurred since Sandy Hook.2<\/sup>\u00a0 But these are not random events.\u00a0 They are not lightning strikes.\u00a0 They reflect widespread conditions of psychological and social disintegration in American society.\u00a0 \u00a0We will see what those conditions are in the case of Adam Lanza.\u00a0 At the same time, it would have been difficult for anyone to have foreseen what was coming in Newtown — except, perhaps, for Nancy, Adam’s mother and first victim.<\/p>\n

Solomon’s article is spare in what I would most like to know about, namely, Adam’s earliest years and a close examination of his relationship with his mother, Nancy.\u00a0 Apparently there is a treasure trove of e-mails between Adam and Nancy in the last years before the event that are under seal with the Connecticut State Police, and which Solomon did not have access to.\u00a0 He tells us of this in his NPR Fresh Air<\/em> interview. \u00a0If those e-mails could be examined it might shed a great light on the final trajectory of this tragedy and on the plausibility or implausibility of the interpretation being offered here.<\/p>\n

Solomon tells us in the article that<\/p>\n

he [Adam] didn’t speak until he was three, and he always understood many more words that he could muster.\u00a0 He showed such hypersensitivity to physical touch that tags had to be removed from his clothing.\u00a0 In preschool and at Sandy Hook, where he was a pupil till the beginning of sixth grade, he sometimes smelled things that weren’t there and washed his hands excessively.”\u00a0 A doctor diagnosed sensory integration disorder, and Adam underwent speech therapy and occupational therapy in kindergarten and first grade.\u00a0\u00a0 Teachers were told to watch for seizures.\u00a0 (p. 37)<\/p>\n

This might have been an early indicator of the autism that was later diagnosed.\u00a0 Autism is a vast concept that encompasses a broad array of behavioral anomalies, learning disabilities, and social difficulties.\u00a0 A recent article in the New England Journal of Medicine<\/em> linked it to prenatal abnormalities in cerebral cortex development.3<\/sup>\u00a0 The cerebral cortex has many disparate areas and governs many aspects of sensory processing, motor skills, and language skills.\u00a0 Depending on the area and extent of developmental abnormalities, the resulting manifestations, what is called “autism,” could differ markedly.\u00a0 From what I could glean from Solomon’s article, Adam did show indicators of autism, in respect to the hypersensitivity to sounds and touch.<\/p>\n

Sensory overload affected his ability to concentrate; his mother xeroxed his textbooks in black and white, because he found color graphics unbearable.\u00a0 He quit playing the saxophone, stopped climbing trees, avoided eye contact, and developed a stiff, lumbering gait.\u00a0 He said that he hated birthdays and holidays, which he had previously loved; special occasions unsettled his increasingly sclerotic orderliness.\u00a0 He had “episodes,” panic attacks that necessitated his mother coming to school . . . (p. 38)<\/p>\n

All of the above enumerated behaviors have to do with mitigating stimuli that can evoke emotional response:\u00a0 color, music, eye contact, birthdays, holidays, and the panic attacks were probably situations where his anxiety got out of control.<\/p>\n

My personal experience with autism is limited to one person, whom I knew rather closely.\u00a0 My observation of this woman was that her emotions appeared to be hooked up to an amplifier with the volume turned up too loud.\u00a0 She reacted with great intensity, particularly to anything negative, often going to the extreme.\u00a0 Her reactions were not inappropriate, as in schizophrenia, but disproportionate.\u00a0 She didn’t seem to have any ability to modulate her feelings.\u00a0 She took everything to the ultimate.\u00a0 She was a woman of extremes.\u00a0 Once she started careening out of control,\u00a0 it was very hard to rein her in.\u00a0 She could be violent.\u00a0 She could be explosive.\u00a0 Whenever she came to visit, I always made sure that any knives, scissors, pencils, letter openers, or anything with a blade or a sharp point were put away inside drawers and cabinets rather than lying around on tables, desks, and countertops, where they could be grabbed quickly.\u00a0 And I certainly wouldn’t have taught her how to use a gun.<\/p>\n

This intensity of emotional response in autism is echoed in an account by Tara Kaberry.4<\/sup>\u00a0 Kaberry’s observations of her son are very similar to what I saw in the woman I knew.\u00a0\u00a0 Kaberry also described a tendency of her son’s to shut down in response to overstimulation.\u00a0 The autistic person, having limited or no ability to regulate emotional intensity, shuts down emotionally in order to avoid getting out of control. \u00a0It is a defensive move.<\/p>\n

Adam’s showed many similar behaviors and his ability to regulate his own emotions seemed to deteriorate as he got older.\u00a0 Was this a progression of the autism, or was it a response to changes in his human relations and social environment filtered through the autism<\/em>?\u00a0 It is hard for me to say.\u00a0 There was a lot of emotional hardship going on in the family throughout Adam’s years growing up.\u00a0 His parents separated in 2001, when he was 9, and no doubt their relationship had been strained for some time before that.\u00a0 They divorced in 2009 when he was in his teens.\u00a0 His father remarried within a year or two.\u00a0 This affected his mother, may have intensified her loneliness and depression, and she seemed to distance herself from his father after that.\u00a0 This negative progressive development in his parents’ relationship could represent quite an intense overload for a boy who couldn’t bear color in his textbooks.\u00a0 It could explain his progressive shutting down and withdrawal from human contact.\u00a0 Suicide would represent the ultimate withdrawal and shutting down.\u00a0 But this should not be seen as a natural progression of autism.\u00a0 It is a response to changes in the human environment, albeit to an extreme.\u00a0 It seems that the human environment can be an exacerbating or mitigating factor in the type and degree of the manifestations of autism.<\/p>\n

It is also true that some autistic people can be aggressive and violent, especially as they approach young adulthood.\u00a0 However, when autistic children are violent it tends to have a history and a pattern of circumstances that triggers it.5<\/sup>\u00a0 But apparently Adam had no history of violent or troubling behavior (p. 40) — unless Nancy was not revealing all that she knew.\u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0Because the Newtown rampage was such a singular outburst that was focused on well chosen targets, that took careful planning and good functionality to execute, I discount autism as a determining factor, although it may have played a role in laying the foundation as an emotional intensifier.\u00a0 The causes of Adam Lanza’s debacle were primarily interpersonal, social, and psychological, as I see it.\u00a0 There is some evidence that suicide ideation is significantly higher in autistic children than in the rest of the population, except for depressed children.6<\/sup>\u00a0 But the suicidal tendencies seem to be related to social factors more than to the autism itself, i.e., to the brain abnormalities.\u00a0 This agrees with my assessment of the Sandy Hook case.\u00a0 If there is anything that Adam Lanza’s case teaches us, it is that autism should never be mixed with guns.<\/p>\n

The presence of autism complicates any attempt at psychological analysis.\u00a0 It is difficult to separate the impact of autism, that is, the abnormalities in the structure of the brain, and the resultant distortions in the processing of emotional stimuli, from the environmental impacts of the human and social relations on both personality structure and emotional responses to particular situations.<\/p>\n

Solomon presents a rather disconnected, confused discussion of empathy in relation to Adam. (p. 40-41)\u00a0 On the one hand he seems to want to say that Adam lacked empathy, which he sees as a manifestation of autism, but on the other he enumerates plenty of evidence that Adam had excellent empathy.\u00a0 Adam understood the people around him well enough to know exactly how to hurt them with the most brutal effect.\u00a0 Kaberry also points out how the emotional shut down which autistic people use as a defense against overstimulation and a lack of emotional control is often misread as a lack of empathy.<\/p>\n

Empathy is the ability to read another person’s mental state: to grasp what they are thinking and feeling, to anticipate their subjective, internal<\/em> responses.\u00a0\u00a0 Empathy is strictly informative; it is not prescriptive.\u00a0 Some people confuse empathy with sympathy, but they are not the same.\u00a0 Empathy is neutral in the way that vision and hearing are neutral. \u00a0It gives you information, but it does not tell you what to do with it.\u00a0 An autistic person’s hypersensitivity to emotional stimuli may interfere with his ability to empathize, but it also may be selective in the quality of feelings that are impeded.\u00a0 In other words, autism may create empathic blind spots — which could be situational — rather than a general degradation in the ability to empathize.\u00a0 The defensive shutting down (refusing to make eye contact, to shake hands, speaking in a flat monotone, etc.) does not necessarily imply a lack of understanding of the feelings and intentions of another person.\u00a0 It implies rather a refusal to allow a response, and an unwillingness to engage in the unpredictable give and take of a human interaction.\u00a0 Adam’s atrocity was informed by the most astute empathy for its impact on the whole society.\u00a0 In respect to his crime, Adam was not unempathic, he was evil.<\/p>\n

From his earliest years Adam’s experience of school was interventionist and “therapeutic.”\u00a0 But apparently his relationship with Nancy was not examined in any depth nor was his relationship with his parents connected in any way to the symptoms he presented.\u00a0 It was a very inauspicious omission.\u00a0 This was the point where an appropriate intervention might have made a meaningful difference.\u00a0 Doing the wrong thing \u00a0and evincing\u00a0 gross misunderstanding of the young boy was probably the kindling point of what later became the blazing rage that was turned on the school.<\/p>\n

Another important lacuna in Solomon’s account is Nancy’s preoccupation with guns and her frequent trips with Adam to the shooting range to see that he was well trained in the use of firearms.\u00a0 Peter also participated in these shooting range trips, but apparently less often.\u00a0 It was a very important part of Adam’s relationship with his parents, particularly with his mother, right up to the very end, and Solomon barely mentions it.\u00a0 Solomon emphasizes psychiatrists and schools.\u00a0 His article becomes so sanitized it is almost disingenuous.\u00a0 In contrast,\u00a0 The New York Times <\/em>reported that<\/p>\n

Inside the rambling, pale-yellow Colonial-style home in a Connecticut suburb, Adam Lanza lived amid a stockpile of disparate weaponry and macabre keepsakes:\u00a0 several firearms, more than 1,600 rounds of ammunition, 11 knives, a starter pistol, a bayonet, 3 samurai swords.\u00a0 He saved photographs of what appeared to be a corpse smeared in blood and covered in plastic, as well as a newspaper clipping that chronicled a vicious shooting at Northern Illinois University.7<\/sup><\/p>\n

This house was ready for serious combat.\u00a0 But the real enemy was within.\u00a0 Nancy complained that she couldn’t get Adam to go to a tutor, but she never mentions having trouble getting him to go to the shooting range.<\/p>\n

When Adam was thirteen he was taken to Paul J. Fox, a psychiatrist who first gave Adam the Asberger’s syndrome diagnosis and recommended that Nancy homeschool Adam, arguing that isolating him from his peers would be better than the many difficulties Adam was having in school.\u00a0 (p. 39)\u00a0 When I saw that I thought, “Oh, no!”\u00a0 Isolating this troubled boy with his overinvolved mother in an emotional hothouse.\u00a0 Wrong move.\u00a0 This was an unfortunate, and I think, fateful turning point.\u00a0 Fox also prescribed a psychotropic drug called Lexapro, which caused immediate, severe side effects and was promptly discontinued — by Adam himself, not the adults.<\/p>\n

Robert King, the psychiatrist at Yale’s Child Study Center, who examined Adam, “was concerned that Adam’s parents seemed to worry primarily about his schooling, and said that it was more urgent to address ‘how to accommodate Adam’s severe social disabilities in a way that would permit him to be around peers.’\u00a0 King saw, ‘significant risks to Adam in creating, even with the best of intentions, a prosthetic environment which spares him having to encounter other students or to work to overcome his social difficulties.'” (p. 39-40)\u00a0 In my opinion, this doctor got it right.\u00a0 But they don’t seem to have followed his advice.<\/p>\n

I am deeply mistrustful of psychiatric diagnoses.\u00a0 Their purpose is to develop a uniform approach for treating all with the same label, but when dealing with people and their inner lives a customized individual approach is what is necessary.\u00a0 In our time psychiatric diagnoses are being used to market a host of drugs designed to modify and control behavior, so there is a vast and powerful industry invested in them.\u00a0 This case calls into question with the utmost poignancy the faith we place in these diagnostic concepts.<\/p>\n

Once you have one of these labels pinned on you, it affects the way you are regarded and treated in school.\u00a0 It affects the way your peers perceive you.\u00a0 It affects expectations others have of you.\u00a0 It might affect opportunities that are available to you.\u00a0 Everything you do becomes interpreted in terms of your diagnostic category.\u00a0 Your diagnosis becomes your identity as a person.\u00a0 And these labels are extremely persistent.\u00a0 Once they get stuck on you, it is very hard to peel them off.<\/p>\n

In his interview with Terry Gross on NPR’s Fresh Air<\/em> program (March 13, 2014), Solomon remarked at how the dispensation of a psychiatric diagnosis can be a profound relief to parents of a troubled child or to an individual who is suffering.\u00a0 At last, one has a definition of the problem.\u00a0 One is not alone in ones troubles, but becomes part of a community of those similarly afflicted.\u00a0 The case of Adam Lanza illustrates how perilous such comfort and relief can be, how misleading conceptualizations and misguided treatments can easily result.\u00a0\u00a0 One must treat each case as an individual, look closely at the peculiarities of each situation and understand what is going on in the human relationships of that person before presuming to make active interventions, particularly in altering the chemistry of the brain in order to manipulate behavior or numb emotions that are a natural response to the human and social environment.<\/p>\n

Adam rejected with some vehemence the diagnoses that were made of him (Asberger’s syndrome, autism, obsessive compulsive disorder, etc.), and insisted that the problems were external, i.e., between him and his parents, especially his mother.\u00a0 But no one listened.\u00a0 In fact, from the sound of Solomon’s interview and the article, they completely failed to examine the relationship<\/em> between Nancy and Adam as having any bearing on Adam’s problems.\u00a0 The problem was always with Adam.\u00a0 There was something wrong with him<\/em>, we have to find out what it is.\u00a0 We have to treat Adam<\/em>.\u00a0 This can be understandably enraging to a young boy, when he knew very well that the basic problem was his mom, and that rage, being reinforced and intensified in countless small interactions day by day, can build up over time to a feverish intensity.\u00a0 The basic problem in understanding this case, as I see it, is the lack of attention that has been paid to Nancy<\/em> and her relationship with Adam as a determinative factor in the outcome.<\/p>\n

The Connecticut State Attorney’s report8<\/sup> also fails to examine Adam’s relationship with his mother in any great detail, offering only a few conflicting generalities.\u00a0 In fact, it ignores Adam as a human being altogether, referring to him throughout as ‘the shooter.’\u00a0 The State Attorney can’t even bear to use his name.\u00a0 They were not interested in Adam Lanza as a person, but only as ‘the shooter.’\u00a0 It is not surprising that this police report sheds no light on Adam’s motivation for the rampage.<\/p>\n

Solomon tells us that Peter “maintains a nearly fanatical insistence on facts, and nothing annoyed him more in our conversations that speculation — by me, the media, or anyone else.” (p. 37)\u00a0 However, Peter indulges in numerous speculations himself throughout the article that I very much question.\u00a0 For example, “With hindsight, I know Adam would have killed me in a heartbeat, if he’d had the chance.\u00a0 I don’t question that for a minute.” (p. 43)\u00a0 I question it very much.\u00a0 Peter’s relationship with Adam seems to have been the most positive, constructive, nurturing one that Adam had in his life.\u00a0 Throughout his life up to the very end, Peter reached out to Adam in very positive, supportive, helpful ways, playing with Lego blocks, taking him on hikes, shopping for Christmas presents to donate to needy children (at Adam’s initiative), buying him a car, teaching him to drive, offering to buy him a new computer.\u00a0 There is a very touching picture in the Connecticut Attorney General’s report of a birthday card Peter sent to Adam in the last year of his life inviting him to send an e-mail if he would like to go hiking or shooting.\u00a0 The best times of Adam’s life appear to be the times he spent with his dad.\u00a0 If Peter had been around to act as a buffer between Adam and Nancy, Adam might not have killed anybody.\u00a0 That is my counter speculation.<\/p>\n

“I was doing everything I could, ”\u00a0 Peter said.\u00a0 “She was doing way more.\u00a0 I just feel sad for her.”\u00a0 Peter is convinced that Nancy had no idea how dangerous their son had become.\u00a0 “She never confided to her sister or best friend about being afraid of him.\u00a0 She slept with her bedroom door unlocked, and she kept guns in the house, which she would not have done if she were frightened.”\u00a0 (p. 43)<\/p>\n

Of course she wasn’t frightened.\u00a0 But for reasons that Peter had no capability to fathom.\u00a0 I have a very different conception of Nancy and her role in this tragedy.\u00a0 I see her as the driving force that impelled Adam toward a violent consummation.\u00a0 In my view Peter was a man of limited insight into emotional issues and woefully incapable of perceiving the emotional needs of his family, first of all of his wife, and more pertinently of his son.\u00a0\u00a0 But it is certainly true as well that Nancy was not up to being an effective wife and mother, and this resulted in Peter turning away from the family fairly early on and divesting himself to a large extent of this tangled emotional morass of Adam and Nancy, leaving them to more or less fend for themselves.\u00a0 “I took a back seat,” he tells us. (p. 39)\u00a0 By his own admission he wasn’t around that much, even when he was married to Nancy and living with the family.\u00a0 “I’d work ridiculous hours during the week and Nancy would take care of the kids.\u00a0 Then, on weekends, she’d do errands and I’d spend time with the kids.” (p. 38)\u00a0 It doesn’t appear that they spent a lot of time together<\/em> with their children, so Peter would not have observed much of the day to day interactions between Nancy and Adam.\u00a0 He was a man who did not know what was going on in his own house, and he seems to have had a limited emotional connection to his wife.<\/p>\n

Nancy, quite naturally, being socially isolated and profoundly insecure, turned to Adam with her tremendous neediness, monumental anxieties, loneliness, sense of futility, and tendency to control and manipulate.\u00a0 Adam, being a child and having the limitations of his autism, was not equipped to deal with this overwhelming onslaught, and began to withdraw in various ways, incorporating many of Nancy’s anxieties, showing various asocial symptoms, while at the same time steadily building up a volcanic rage that he could not express directly.\u00a0 But he was given explicit encouragement in the use of guns and implicit permission for an interest in violence and murder.\u00a0 So his anger became channeled in this direction and coalesced around the condensation points of mass shootings, and, especially, shootings at schools, since schools were the places he could best relate to, and which were the bane of his life and the perpetual measuring stick against which he was always coming up short.<\/p>\n

It was after Peter’s marriage to Shelly Cudiner that things seem to careen toward their final demise.<\/p>\n

Nancy wanted to take him to a tutor, but, she wrote, ‘Even ten minutes before we should leave he was getting ready to go, but then had a meltdown and began to cry and couldn’t go.\u00a0 He said things like it’s pointless, and he doesn’t even know what he doesn’t know.’\u00a0 In early 2010, when Nancy told Peter that Adam had been crying hysterically on the bathroom floor, Peter responded with uncharacteristic vehemence:\u00a0 ‘Adam needs to communicate the source of his sorrow.\u00a0 We have less than three months to help him before he is eighteen.\u00a0 I am convinced that when he is eighteen he will either try to enlist or just leave the house to become homeless.’ (p. 42)<\/p>\n

My feeling is at this point Adam should have been hospitalized.\u00a0 Clearly the situation was getting worse and worse and Nancy was not managing it.\u00a0 This is where an intervention that would have altered this downward spiraling dyad of Nancy and Adam should have been imposed.\u00a0 Peter was completely blind to the problem and its seriousness.\u00a0 He was only looking at Adam and not at the relationship<\/em> between Adam and Nancy.\u00a0 It was a fateful and fatal misperception.<\/p>\n

Shelley Cudiner had apparently been living in the Sandy Hook community for at least ten years, and had been previously married.\u00a0 I was not able to find out the date of her marriage to Peter, but it had to have been in late 2010 or 2011, nor was I able to find out the history of their relationship, and if it played any role in Peter’s divorce from Nancy in 2009.\u00a0 It is pretty clear that the divorce of his parents had a negative effect on Adam, contrary to Peter’s assessment. (p. 38)\u00a0 It took Peter even further out of the life of the family than he already was, and left Adam indelibly fixed in the orbit of his mother.\u00a0 The marriage of Peter to Shelley some time in late 2010 or 2011 was probably what set things on their final course.\u00a0 Adam decided (perhaps in error) that his father was of no further use, and began to withdraw from him.\u00a0 Nancy also distanced herself from Peter and began to impede his access to Adam while maintaining a pretense as a helpful intermediary, offering misleading signals that Adam’s condition might be improving.\u00a0 At some point after his father’s remarriage Adam made up his mind that he would have to deal with this himself in his own way, and his mother was giving him plenty of clues as to how to go about it.<\/p>\n

“A word document called ‘Selfish,’ which was found on Adam’s computer, gives an explanation of why females are inherently selfish, written while one of them was accommodating him in every possible way.” (p. 43)<\/p>\n

This comment illustrates how effective Nancy’s dissimulation was in misleading Peter, Solomon, the community, and the media.\u00a0 But she didn’t fool Adam.\u00a0 Adam was closer to her than anyone else and knew her best.<\/p>\n

The portrayal of Nancy as the hapless, longsuffering victim of a monster child increasingly out of control due to mysterious internal forces is not credible.\u00a0 \u00a0What follows is a speculative reconstruction, with no apologies, Peter — and I don’t regard you as the most authoritative commentator.\u00a0 I do welcome concrete evidence that would refute or confirm it.\u00a0 I believe such evidence exists and that it is possible to definitively understand what happened in this tragedy.\u00a0 But it requires a close examination of Nancy, who she was, and her impact on Adam’s psychological development.<\/p>\n

As I see it, at some point Nancy must have decided that death was an increasingly appealing alternative to the deteriorating life she had.\u00a0 There is simply not enough information to determine at what point this occurred.\u00a0\u00a0 Whether it was after her separation from Peter in 2001, after her divorce in 2009, or after Peter’s remarriage in 2010 or 11, or perhaps even way before at some time during her marriage when Peter was nominally living with her.\u00a0 But Nancy seems to have become increasingly depressed and very likely suicidal.\u00a0 She did not have the inner resolve to kill herself, so she chose Adam for the role of her executioner, and she made sure he had the means at his disposal, and gave him plenty of training for the task.\u00a0 Some people commit suicide by provoking others to kill them.\u00a0 Nancy was using Adam as her instrument.\u00a0\u00a0 There was an implicit understanding between them.\u00a0 Adam may well have realized where his mother was driving them both, and it could explain his attempts to wall himself off from her and isolate himself in the last months before the killings.\u00a0 Just before the shootings, Nancy wrote Adam a Christmas check for the purpose of buying a CZ 83 semiautomatic pistol. (CT State Attorney’s Report, p. 26)\u00a0 It may have been Nancy’s Christmas wish for herself to Adam.\u00a0 And Adam got the message.\u00a0 Of course Nancy wasn’t frightened.\u00a0 She had a pretty good idea what was coming and was resigned to it, even encouraging of it.\u00a0 In committing a murder-suicide Adam may have been carrying out his mother’s final wishes.<\/p>\n

Anyone who does not accept this or some similar reconstruction of Nancy must account for one overpowering fact that transcends all diagnosis:\u00a0 Adam Lanza killed his mother.\u00a0 If there was nothing terribly wrong in the relationship between Adam and Nancy, and she was just a well meaning parent doing everything she could for her troubled child, then you have no choice but to see Adam as in inexplicable demon who randomly snapped and lashed out blindly at anyone who happened to be around.\u00a0 It is an untenable view that goes against common sense and everything we know about psychology.<\/p>\n

What Nancy probably did not count on was the conflagration at Sandy Hook Elementary School.\u00a0 That was most likely Adam’s own twist on the matter.\u00a0 Nancy was probably visualizing her own murder, or perhaps murder-suicide — and was quite prepared for it.\u00a0 Adam, through his study of mass shootings, particularly the one at Columbine High School in Colorado, visualized a more dramatic exit.\u00a0 He did not want to just die a mediocre death of a murder-suicide that would be swept under the rug and quickly forgotten.\u00a0 He wanted lasting infamy.\u00a0 It also served as a final assertion of independence from his mother.\u00a0 Blasting the school away was a final comment on his parents’ values and expectations.\u00a0 It was Adam’s verdict on everything that they tried to impose on him throughout his entire life.\u00a0 It makes perfect sense.<\/p>\n

The massacre of young children at Sandy Hook was a further stab in the eye of society and of life itself.\u00a0 It is one thing to say, “My life is not worth living.\u00a0 Therefore I will kill myself and end it.\u00a0 You may see things differently, so you will choose to continue to live.\u00a0 Very well, but I will say good-bye.”\u00a0 That is the simple suicide.\u00a0 Murder-suicide is suicide coupled with the murder of one (or perhaps others) with whom one feels inextricably bound and who is the partner in a consummating sense of despair and rage.\u00a0 When the suicide is accompanied with murders of strangers who are not chosen at random, but share some characteristics, such as children at a school, then the act represents an attack on the society, and reflects a perception on the part of the killer that society is in some way to blame for his demise and for the destructive retribution that he is meting out.\u00a0 The school killings at Columbine, Sandy Hook, Virginia Tech, Northern Illinois, and many others around the world are acts of vengeance<\/em>.\u00a0 They are retribution on the part of the shooter for perceived injuries and insults that have intolerably afflicted his life.\u00a0 The perceptions may be accurate or inaccurate, justified or delusional, but the killer is lashing out at specific targets that represent an inchoate enemy.\u00a0 Children represent the hopes and dreams of a society.\u00a0 They represent the future, its continuation and growth.\u00a0 Killing children is the most vicious, categorical attack on any society, because it aims at the destruction of that society’s future.\u00a0 Adam’s attack on the Sandy Hook Elementary School represents his complete alienation, not only from his own family, but from his community and his entire society.\u00a0 He wanted to destroy not only himself and his mother, but everything.<\/p>\n

This is what people find so difficult to comprehend.\u00a0 How is such complete, thoroughgoing alienation possible?\u00a0 It occurs when all the roads forward seem blocked or unappealing to the point of being unacceptable.\u00a0 This has a great deal to do with schooling, because school is where one comes into contact with society and its values, and where one begins to formulate a vision for one’s personal future in that society.\u00a0 One meets peers in one’s age group and begins to form friendships and associations.\u00a0 Patterns become established in how one interacts with other people and one’s expectations of oneself and for the future.\u00a0 This is sometimes called “socialization.”\u00a0 When this process doesn’t work out, alienation is the result, and manifests itself many ways, the most common in American society are drug and alcohol abuse, which are passive and withdrawing, and criminality, which is assertive and defiant.\u00a0 American schools are virtual factories of alienation.\u00a0 The medical establishment is another.\u00a0 Adam Lanza experienced both to an inordinate degree from early in his life.\u00a0 When he reached the point of unleashing a terrible vengeance, he chose the most appropriate target.<\/p>\n

I divide this case into two parts:\u00a0 I see the murder of his mother together with Adam’s suicide as an outgrowth of the pathology in the relationship between Nancy and Adam superimposed on the autism.\u00a0 The massacre at Sandy Hook Elementary had less to do with autism and more to do with Adam’s personal psychopathology.\u00a0 It consisted of his essentially depleted, empty inner self, his estrangement from his father, which was related to his parents’ divorce and his father’s remarriage, the compensatory identification he made with the mass murderers who had attacked schools, which was made possible by his negative experiences with schools throughout his life, and the excessive value his parents placed on school achievement and the iatrogenic effect this had on their relationship with Adam.\u00a0 Adam also had encouragement and training in violence and the use of weapons.\u00a0 Violence and the use of guns was egosyntonic in the atmosphere of his home.\u00a0 Furthermore, Adam desired significance.\u00a0 He wanted greatness and a lasting legacy, and he found plenty of role models in the examples of previous mass shooters at schools.<\/p>\n

Peter told Solomon that he wished Adam had never been born.\u00a0 But to wish Adam had never been born is to wish Peter’s entire adult life had never happened: his marriage to Nancy, the many good times spent with Adam, his divorce and remarriage.\u00a0 It is an indication that he is not dealing with the matter well.\u00a0 He wants to distance himself and obliterate it rather than look at it closely and understand exactly what happened and why.\u00a0\u00a0 It is once again his characteristic unwillingness to look at human problems in any depth.<\/p>\n

The media and the police portray Adam as a monster.\u00a0 But he was only a monster on the last day of his life.\u00a0 If we subtract the last day of his life, Adam Lanza was a rather inconsequential person, except to his immediate family.\u00a0 If he had just killed himself, or even just himself and Nancy, it would have been tragic, but it is unlikely that he would be demonized to the degree that he has been.\u00a0\u00a0 It was the murder of the children at Sandy Hook that transformed the mediocre Adam Lanza into a larger than life immortal monster.<\/p>\n

This murder of the children, I must stress, should not be seen as a manifestation of hatred or rage toward the children themselves.\u00a0 There has been some suggestion that Adam was bullied during his school days, and that this contributed to his motivation for the rampage at the school.\u00a0 I discount that.\u00a0 If there was any bullying, it was not a major factor.\u00a0 There is lots of bullying among kids, but few mass murderers.\u00a0 What bullying he might have experienced at school paled in comparison to what he faced at home with his mother.\u00a0 And the children he killed were not the children who had bullied him.\u00a0 They were much younger and strangers to him.\u00a0 So the idea that this was vengeance for bullying that had taken place years ago is facile to the point of being farfetched.\u00a0 Adam’s outburst was rage against the school as an institutional force in children’s lives, and in his in particular, against the society that places inordinate emphasis on school achievement, against his parents who placed such importance school and children’s performance therein, and against the medical community that misdiagnosed him and therefore failed to understand him and provide appropriate interventions.\u00a0 It was also an immature desire for infamy through massive destruction.\u00a0 Grandiosity run amok.<\/p>\n

There were several psychological factors that propelled Adam toward the conflagration at Sandy Hook Elementary.\u00a0 First of all and most fundamentally was his inner sense of emptiness, isolation, and a lack of self definition.\u00a0 Adam had no firm sense of who he was, or what his values were, or his purpose and significance in life.\u00a0 This is all related to inadequacies in his relationship with his mother, the details of which are unavailable, and a turning away from his father as a viable role model, probably in response to his father’s remarriage.\u00a0 He also had his rage and his alienation from school and from society.\u00a0 He also had permission and even encouragement from his parents to use guns.\u00a0 Into this psychological void and hunger for self definition and significance stepped Dylan Clebold and Eric Harris, Steven Kazmierczak, Seung-Hui Cho, Anders Brevik, and other mass shooters he had studied in some detail, who used the school as a stage for macabre theatrics.\u00a0\u00a0 Adam saw in these mass killers a kinship.\u00a0 Identification with them solved a psychological problem in how he should define himself as a person, and it incorporated the important raw materials he had available, namely, the weapons, the rage, the hatred of school, and his contempt for society.\u00a0\u00a0 When you look at it closely, it is almost overdetermined.<\/p>\n

Of course Nancy bears a lot of the responsibility for the outcome, as does Peter.\u00a0 Parents matter.\u00a0 But their responsibility is not total.\u00a0 Nancy set the course toward murder-suicide certainly within the last few years of their lives, and possibly long before.\u00a0 But ultimately Adam made a choice and took an action that defined himself independent of his parents.\u00a0 It may have been the first time in his life that he was able to take such a self defining step.\u00a0 Being a mother is a weighty responsibility that goes unrecognized in American society.\u00a0 It is even despised by many women and men.\u00a0 But when it is handled badly, the cost can be great, both for the children and the family, and also for society.\u00a0 The important lessons from the Sandy Hook massacre are the value of motherhood, the social significance of alienation, and the perils of the ready availability of guns.\u00a0 These three factors, built on a substrate of autism, caused this event.\u00a0 It is not at all incomprehensible.\u00a0 It is very clear, and these conditions are not uncommon in American society.\u00a0 More such atrocities are likely brewing.\u00a0 Not every situation that could develop toward this outcome does.\u00a0 Many, many factors can derail, divert, or mitigate such an person from carrying forward to the most extreme outcome.\u00a0 Thankfully, it should be a rarity, but the prevalence of the right soil conditions is bound to produce some malignant fruit.<\/p>\n

The realization of this whole episode and many others like it of lesser import are made possible by the ready availability of guns in American society.\u00a0 There are lots of troubled people; there are lots of crazy people; there are lots of people with evil hearts who desire to destroy themselves and others.\u00a0 Giving them effective means to carry out their worst intentions and encouraging their use is the worst possible thing a society can do.\u00a0 Yet this is what America does.\u00a0 So we as a society also bear a large part of the responsibility for the demise of Adam Lanza and the calamity at Sandy Hook Elementary.\u00a0 Adam may have been supremely evil on the last day of his life, but Nancy was evil and malevolent for a very long time, molding and shaping Adam into the explosive time bomb he became, and America is sinister and evil in providing the conditions that enable and promote the most extreme outcomes of psychopathology and emotional disintegration.<\/p>\n

Depending on whom you ask, there were twenty-six, twenty-seven, or twenty-eight victims in Newtown.\u00a0 It’s twenty-six if you count only those who were murdered at Sandy Hook Elementary School, twenty-seven if you include Nancy Lanza; twenty-eight if you judge Adam’s suicide as a loss.\u00a0 There are twenty-six stars on the local firehouse roof.\u00a0 On the anniversary of the shootings, President Obama referred to ‘six dedicated school workers and twenty beautiful children’ who had been killed, and the governor of Connecticut asked churches to ring their bells twenty-six times.\u00a0 Some churches in Newtown had previously commemorated the victims by ringing twenty-eight times . . . (p. 37)<\/p>\n

Society wishes to exclude Adam and Nancy in death as they had been in life: ignoring them, misunderstanding them, wishing, like Peter, that they had never existed.\u00a0 We are not learning the lessons that their lives and deaths should teach us.<\/p>\n

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1.\u00a0 Fresh Air <\/em>with Terry Gross.\u00a0 National Public Radio broadcast. March 13, 2014.<\/p>\n

2.\u00a0 \u00a0New York Daily News<\/em>, February 12, 2014<\/p>\n

3.\u00a0 New England Journal of Medicine<\/p>\n

4. Kaberry, Tara. Can Emotional Overload Look Like a Lack of Empathy?\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 <\/span>Autism and Empathy<\/em>.\u00a0 October 28, 2011.\u00a0\u00a0 http:\/\/www.autismandempathy.com\/?p=713<\/span><\/p>\n

5. <\/span>Washington Post<\/em>, March 13, 2011.\u00a0 Also<\/span><\/p>\n

http:\/\/www.ageofautism.com\/2013\/10\/lost-afraid-where-to-turn-when-autism-turns-violent.html<\/p>\n

6.\u00a0 Mayes, Susan Dickerson; Gorman, Angela A.; Hillwig-Garcia, Jolene; Syed Ehsan (2013)\u00a0 Suicide ideation and attempts in children with autism.\u00a0 Research in Autism Spectrum Disorders<\/em>, Vol. 7, No. 1, pp. 109-119.<\/p>\n

7.\u00a0 <\/span>New York Times<\/em>\u00a0 March 28, 2013.<\/span><\/p>\n

8.\u00a0 <\/span>Report of the State\u2019s Attorney for the Judicial District of Danbury on the\u00a0<\/em>Shootings at Sandy Hook Elementary School and 36 Yogananda Street,<\/em><\/p>\n

Newtown, Connecticut on December 14, 2012.<\/em>\u00a0 OFFICE OF THE STATE\u2019S ATTORNEY JUDICIAL DISTRICT OF DANBURY, Stephen J. Sedensky III, State\u2019s Attorney.\u00a0 November 25, 2013<\/p>\n

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